T-9 Sex positions

Q: "Hello. I’m a paraplegic from t-9 down and I have some sensation. I also have rods in my spine. My question is, what are the safest sex positions? I’ve been concerned about this as I have a new boyfriend."

A: Thanks for your question! First I am not a doctor, so you should also discuss this with your Doctor especially in regards to the rods in your spine. However. I do have a few tips that could help. I always like to suggest that people think of which position they feel the most comfortable in that not necessarily sexual. Do you naturally like laying on your back, or maybe your side? Then with that information, learn to adapt your most comfortable positions into sexual positions! Be open-minded, sex can look a multitude of ways and it’s all up to you and your new boyfriend to get creative and think about what is gonna work best for both of you. Also, there are awesome props you can get such as pillows, swings, the Liberator for example is an amazing pillow to help you feel comfortable in different positions. So the basic idea is to work with what your body can do instead of trying to do what it can’t. I hope that helps!

Accessible Strap-ons and vibrators for limited mobility

Q: I am looking to get a strap on. However, I have limited mobility and poor fine motor controls with limited use of my hands. I will need to be able to put it on myself because I am not allowed to hire my own aides because of how the agency works. Do you have any recommendations for a vibrator that is easy to hold and operate? What about a harness that goes on like underwear? Thank you! Happy holidays to you and yours!



A: These are great questions. You are in luck because are tons of different kinds of harnesses! Wetforher makes a boxer brief harness that goes on exactly like underwear. However, I would encourage you to look at thigh harnesses as they are super easy to put on! They are basically fabric with velcro that fits to your thigh. Also if none of these work for you, there are places that can make you a custom fit harnesses to practically any part of your body! I recommend checking out Unicorn Collaborators for that. As for an accessible vibrator - The Moxie is excellent. It attaches to your underwear with a magnet so it’s completely hands-free once put in place.