Limited Hip Mobility + Sex

Q: What are some tips for limited hip mobility?



A: Thanks for that question! To begin, I urge you to broaden your idea of what sex is and can look like. Most people think sex has to fit into this preconceived mold of what we’re taught it is supposed to be. But sex can look like many different things, and it’s really up to the individual and their partner(s) to define it. Sex can be cuddling, or mutual masturbation, or instructing your partner on what to do to themselves or you, etc.



To answer your question more specifically, think of the positions (not sex positions) that your body naturally likes to be in. Do you like laying on your side or your back, or sitting in a chair? Then try to adapt your sex around the positions you are most comfortable in. Maybe having your partner go from behind would be better as you don’t have to spread your legs. Also, talk to your partner about what you can and can not do, and then be open to brainstorming new ways of doing things together! You might be surprised that your partner has ideas that you have not thought of! So creativity, working with (not against) your body, and communication will be key to navigating sex with limited hip mobility.

Disclosing your disability and sexual inexperience with a new partner

Q: How do I let my partner know that I have CP and am a virgin? How do I help him help me?


A: I would recommend good open communication! I know it is hard at first to be that vulnerable with a new partner, but it is critical to not only your pleasure but your safety as well! Tell him how your CP affects your body and what you can and can not do in general. Brainstorm about the fun sexy stuff you can enjoy together. This could be a form of foreplay in and of itself. As for the virgin aspect, it is just as important to communicate this so if you decide to have sex with him, so he can be extra sure to not accidentally push anything too far or hurt you. And during sex is an equally important time to continue the communication of what feels good and what doesn’t, and letting your partner know what you need/or think you might need to make it a pleasurable experience for both of you. I know it can be scary talking about important things such as this, but remember if your partner is not okay or open to any of this, you really shouldn’t be with him in the first place, because there are plenty of people who will accept you for who you are.

Spasticity and Orgasms

Q: "I have mild spastic Cerebral Palsy and I’m afraid to orgasm because I’m worried it might be painful. Do you have any advice?"





A: Yes! This is a common concern for people with CP. For folks who don’t know, spasticity causes muscles to be really tight and spasm - this can lead to pain! When people orgasm, most often their muscles get tight (this is true for anyone, not just people with CP). So, for those with CP, we have to be creative! Here are tips to help you enjoy your orgasms. Get into a comfortable position. This might mean bending your legs so they don’t push against whatever is surrounding you or what you are lying on. Using pillows to brace the impact of your muscles tightening can be really helpful as well. Also if you take anti-spastic medication, maybe time your fun around when you take your medication so your muscles are more relaxed. Also, and I know many people think the goal of sex and masturbation is to orgasm, but it’s not! Sex is a journey and it’s all about pleasure. So just explore your body and try different things and most of all, have fun!