Dating apps while disabled

Q: Hey Eva! My question is what dating sites have you had any luck on I been having trouble getting dates on any dating site and I can not help but think it is because of my disability? Are there any dating sites specifically for people with disabilities that you know of? Any of your sage advice would be greatly appreciated!

A: Thanks for this question! So I did do a little research and found a few sites that are specifically for dating for people with disabilities, however, I have not used my self and recommend precaution, as I would imagine this would be a great place for Devotees (people who fetishize disabled people) to go.

So here are a few other tips I have for using more mainstream dating sites, such as Tinder, OkCupid, Bumble, Lex, Grindr. Etc.


I am a big fan of putting your disability in your profile. I know this is a personal preference, and it sounds like you have done this in some way as well, but here is why I think that’s important. It gives people a better sense of who you are from the get-go. This explanation does not have to be a novel in your bio/messages, you can just say a couple of simple sentences like “Hi! I am Eva, I am a queer sex educator, I have Cerebral Palsy which for me means I’m nonverbal and use a wheelchair, I also like cats, etc...”. This does weed out people, so yes you will get fewer messages, but the people that do message you will be higher quality and already open to the fact that you are disabled. They will have questions, but if asked respectfully can often just mean they want to get to know you. Those who are not respectful or don’t want to date a disabled person are not worth your time anyway.